Chris Rock Tackles the Notion of “Good Hair” in New DocuComedy

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A68UVn0nMvo

Black Women of America buckle up, and get ready to be put on BLAST.

After careful consideration, I think its just the shot in the arm many in our community need. This movie will be hilarious, because it will put all of our ridiculous notions of “good hair” and what is “beautiful” on display for all to see in all its ignorant glory. Many will leave this film embarrassed as we should be. I really hope this causes Black women to pause and think about WHY they do the things they do to their hair.

I DON’T feel that all women who perm their hair are self hating or are trying to be white, I had a perm for four years and I loved being Black then just as much as I do now. However, I do think the way perming your hair makes you feel about your new growth or your natural god given hair texture can get to be unhealthy. Around touch-up time its as if we begin to look at our hair like a problem that needs to be solved. I think that mindset can get to be corosive on one’s psyche. Our daughters witness this behavior and the cycle of seeing our hair as inferior and ugly is perpetuated yet again.

Another facet of this dynamic I found really fascinating was the Beauty Supply Store owner who spoke of African textured hair as if it was the most disgusting thing he’d ever seen. He said “we no want that hair that look like Africa like this, (holds hands out for effect) we want the hair that look straight, look more natural”………for whom?

In an odd way, the Beauty Supply Store owner is like a Drug Dealer, exploiting the self-hatred of a community and routinely giving them their temporary “fix” turning self-hatred, into profit.

The one thing that sista’s do which confuses me to no end is not allowing your own MAN to touch your hair. C’MON!!!! No weave is worth that. Learn the best way to work with your hair to grow it out or at least grow it out under the weave so that one day he can run his hands thru your hair and enjoy that intimacy with him. I once had a black man play in my straightened hair for thirty minutes straight amazed that I was letting him, and in awe that it was my own real hair. It felt great lol (like a relaxing massage) but the idea that this was a new experience for him blew me away.

I’m also always floored by the misinformation we’ve been given about our hair and its potential to grow long I’ve been asked on several occasions what I’m mixed with (nothing) or had my advice dismissed offhand because obviously I have that “good” hair when we have the same kinky textured hair. Ladies we CAN grow our afro textured hair as long and as thick as the weaves, we just have to care for our hair differently then we have been led to believe.

I think if we want to convey the truth, the fact that Black is beautiful in all its glory then we have to be the first examples of that. We have to take charge and embrace the way we were created. Show the world that we love our hair long or short, we love our wide noses our thick lips our dark skin and our round hips, unabashed, unapologetic. Proud.

I know that this stems from the legacy of colonialism the Atlantic slave trade and the effects of living in a society dominated by notions of white beauty. I was the little girl playing with my half white grandma’s hair wishing my hair could look and feel like hers wondering why my hair was nappy and hers was wavy and soft…..I remember playing in my room wearing a beige towel on my head telling my mom I wished my hair was that long. My mother made sure to emphasize to me the fact that I have beautiful hair she taught me my heritage and history and led by her example as a proud afro-centric woman but when she would comb my hair….it would always be a harrowing experience painful and uncomfortable and when special occasions would come around she would press my hair straight. She meant well, but it was mixed messages like that that left me confused as a little girl.

They didn’t have the access to information on how to care for Black Women’s Hair like we do today. I hope when we all have our daughters we comb their gorgeous Afro textured hair only when soaking wet with a oil and a great detangling conditioner. I hope we all make the hair styling experience one that is enjoyable for them, so that they never come to resent their god given tresses. My deepest hope is that this notion of “good hair” dies with this generation.

I’d LOVE to hear what you think about this controversial topic and about Chris Rocks movie debuting in October leave a comment share your thoughts weather you agree or disagree. I’d love to hear your perspective.

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  1. Jacinta

    First, that movie looks hilarious and really interesting.

    Second, I’ve been over that whole “good hair” deal since I was a little kid. I remember being put through the hair ringer when I was little. First, there were the hot combs that my mom used to use. I haaaated that experience. Then, we started with the perms, and that went on for years. I knew that anything that burned me that bad was probably not that good for me. Then we got to the curl, which is probably my favorite out of all of them, hence why I’ve kept it so long. I also had braids and the occasional ponytail attachment in high school.

    I think it’s crazy how much we’re willing to go through to make our hair look “right.” I’m hoping not to pass that same mentality down to my kids, though I wonder about my family and the rest of culture giving them the whole “good hair” business.

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    Mona-Lisa

    I totally agree with you there it is WAY over the top we really need to chill with our fixation on trying to make our hair anything but what it is.

    The most beautiful people in the world are the ones who own their beauty first and don’t wait for others people’s validation. i think your curl is really cute but you might want to try texturizing your hair by using a light relaxer or a relaxer mixed with an oil left on your hair briefly to let it grow longer and stronger because the curl can be pretty damaging.

    I really hope we all do our best not to pass on all of these outdated self-hating notions of “good hair” to the next generation. The best gift we can impart to our kids is that of loving oneself fully…… unconditionally.

  3. Alexandra

    It’s funny because you hear the word natural and lot of people have a hard time thinking that natural cannot be glamorous. This idea is perpetuated in mainstream media and it adds to the century long dilemma that black women have had about what is considered “pretty” and “good”.

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    Mona-Lisa

    Great Point, I can definitely attest to the fact that natural can be ultra glam ESPECIALLY when you take good care of your hair to the point that your fro is Diana Ross size its very regal gorgeous and authentic, there are so many textures curls and waves that afro textured hair can achieve. Our hair is the most versatile in the world we just have to embrace the way we were created to really let our beauty shine.

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